Pettyness never ceases to amaze me – especially when I haven’t done anything to hurt someone apart from being reserved or as most people perceive me ‘arrogant’ which I think is mainly an intersection of being reserved and being competent.
I remember this time during the soccer world cup when a certain male colleague (in my previous org) walks up to me smiling gleefully.
‘Brazil lost yesterday’ he says, with an ever broadening grin ‘did you see the match?’ This from a guy who had never discussed soccer with me, or with anyone else.
I can sense where this is heading, so I say quietly, without expression ‘yes I did’
‘So what do you think? Now that Brazil is out’ he keeps on pressing.
‘What is there to think? Are you so happy because you support France?’ I ask.
‘No’ he says ‘I am not supporting France, but I thought you were supporting Brazil’
‘Sorry, but I was supporting France, and I am really glad that they won’ (Wonder why people automatically assume that if you are soccer fan you must be supporting Brazil)
‘Oh’ he says, nonplussed. The grin is wiped off, the smirk disappears.
Shortly thereafter he does to.
And I am left with a mixture of disappointment and satisfaction. More of disappointment – that people can be like this.
And I was really on my way out then – I had decided to leave, and I knew that this was one of the reasons why I was leaving. Not the money, or the prospects, but the fact that the atmosphere was filled with this negativity and apparently i was the only one who sensed it.
And I am no saint (don’t go by my blog name), I have my failings – too many of them. I just hope that I don’t do this or something similar to anyone else.
I had a similar discussion with another ex-colleague, Santa.
Santa: ‘it is not good to have a high opinion of oneself’
Santa: ‘because you are making other people feel bad’
me(almost falling out of my chair): ‘that doesnt make any sense – why should other people feel bad because i feel good about myself?’
Santa: ‘you dont understand’ – or words to that effect.
And another discussion with crazy frenchwoman 🙂 – also ex-colleague:
CFW: You should not think that you are right all the time.
me: I am not saying that I am right all the time, but in this series when was i wrong?
CFW: That’s not the point. You should not think that you are right all the time.
me: but come on, what matter is whether i was right or wrong, right? not whether i think i am right all the time? And i was right, right?
CFW: No, No – it’s rude to think you are right all the time. And even if someone else is wrong it is very rude to tell them that they were wrong.
me: but we were having the whole discussion about this? aargh you are crazy. And i am right.
Fortunately, crazy french woman tolerated my ‘righteousness’.